Negative ideas frequently visit to almost everybody. If any negative idea comes-Push it back... Go -Go.Don't permit it to haunt 
your mind.Always have a positive attitude. This is in one's hand. 
This will give you soft life.
2.We care for others and not for our selves. Reverse it. Care more for ourself and not for others, as per your wish.
3.You can win life:
    1 Avoid two things:
       1 comparing with others.
       2 Expecting from others.
          Life will be more beautiful........Experience and collection.